“All trans women’s experiences are women’s experiences because a woman is experiencing them.”
I do sincerely wonder how many of the cis and CAFAB trans rebloggers actually get what I meant when I wrote that.
All experiences had by every trans woman are women’s experiences.
All of them.
Even her pre-transition experiences still are women’s experiences. The experience of passing for male and denying that you can be anything else? Falls fully into the range of women’s experiences, because it is a thing experienced by women.
A trans woman’s experiences don’t start counting as women’s experiences when she begins to be routinely read as cis. Or when she presents herself as a woman, read as cis or not. Or when they match up to some arbitrary degree in some arbitrary way to cis experiences (and then not when they are unique). Or when she decides to transition.
Trans womanhood is not an imitation of cis womanhood, to be validated only to the extent it is successful as an imitation.
Many things are experienced by both trans and cis women, but trans women’s experiences are women’s experiences, no matter how many observers would say a cis woman wouldn’t experience it.
why did i wake up
We teach females that in relationships, compromise is what women do. We raise girls to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments— which I think can be a good thing— but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are. If we have sons, we don’t mind knowing about our sons’ girlfriends, but our daughters boyfriends? ‘God forbid!’ But of course when the time is right, we expect those girls to bring back the perfect man to be their husband. We police girls, we praise girls for virginity, but we don’t praise boys for virginity. And it’s always made me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out because [laughs] the loss of virginity is usually a process that involves [laughs]….
We teach girls shame. ‘Close your legs!’ ‘Cover yourself!’ We make them feel as though by being born female, they are already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think. And they grow up—and this is the worst thing we do to girls—they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an art form.
i am in love with two people. one is you. the other one is also you, but from an alternate timeline with dragons.
do you ever FEEL yourself being annoying but you CAN’T stop
in about two months it’s going to be 7 years since 2007 and i’m not ready for that
First they’ll criticize our slang. Make us seem uneducated for using it, when the reality is they’re mad we can code switch. Then they’ll use our slang mockingly. Like they really don’t want to use it, but it’s so absurd they can’t help themselves. Then they’ll make money off our slang, t-shirts, cups, bracelets, etc. Then they’ll convince us it was never really ours. It’s been public domain forever.
Feel free to replace the word “Slang” with neighborhoods, and music too.